A Tamil Girl and a Black Guy

by:
Tharmila Shabanathan

From my heading you would probably have guessed what this issue’s article is particularly about. As you know, I write my articles on my own experiences or of others around me. In this particular article, I have decided to write about the lives of many Tamil girls who are increasingly falling in love with other race boys (just not tamil ) and the same goes for boys. In the last few weeks I have come across so much criticism from many tamils about my friend who is dating a black guy. Before I go on to talk about her deeply I would like to let you all know that she is a very nice and very shy and very quite girl ( just so that you guys don’t start saying she’s this n that).

As I was saying; She is a lovely quite girl who usually keeps to her work, however that lovely quite girl was disturbed by a black hero who took her away into his dreams and told her that he really liked her and since that day they have hanged out at lunch and breaks and have even walked home together. But as all love stories have a twist in them. This little fairytale was ended with a another tamil guy seeing this girl with the black boy doing shopping. And ten came the climax when everyone she knew was advising her and talking bad about her and why? Because she was in love with a black guy.

Tell me honestly, even before you began to read the article; just reading the title made you think twice did it not. You might have quickly thought “ is she mad, how is this possible…” You imagination must have ran wild with similar thoughts. This is all because we have been brought up in a way to think like that and to rebel against these rare love affairs and marriages. We were not born to think as such but brought up, and if we can be trained to think bad about these love affairs between two different race lovers then we can definitely be trained to accept as well. After all life is about learning new things is it not?

This story does not end there, I know that for a long time all those at her work will talk bad and even call her names, but I know for sure that our lovely quite girl knows what she is doing and what really counts is that she has the right to decide for herself. Let them reach out, how long are we going to be keeping control of our race in one circle. If one falls in love then race, culture, beauty and colour are no boundary.

To be continued…

Comments

Tamil girl and a Black guy

Hi Tharmila,

When anyone doing something different, there will be supporters and critics, this is natural and nothing much anyone can do about it. The story you described is not just happening in Tamil community, there is also people like this in other communities sound like you do not know much about that. I have seen when a white girl dating a black boy or Asian boy, her parents and friends advise her and some talk bad about her, so it is not just in Tamil community it is happening in every communities.

You friend should not blindly in love or dating, what about her parents spends good part of their life to bring her up and the relative and friends who lend their supports, is someone appear now in her life is much more important than all these people? I am not sure what the answer to this is, but I will not give up my family for my love.

I am not saying that a girl or boy should not be in love but they must estimate the consequence, price they going to pay and the important of outcome of such relation.

It should be clear that your friend will always have those supporters and critics, she is the only one know what is she really want from such relation and make decision based on facts and what is important for her life.

Things may look perfect and rosy from one or a few persons points of view not always perfect in many others view.

The Nice, Shy and Quite Girl

I am aware that this columnist/Blogger did not complete the story. Before I make my comments I would like to know what Tharmila meant by nice, shy and quite girl. I would be grateful to her if she can make this point clear.

Nanri
http://www.poonkothai.blogspot.com/

hi

born tamil live as it is and dont cross
balck boys looking for white girls because in carrebean fair people are superior is the truth.

after some time leave the white girls beacuse of the carreaben culture. marriages in carrebean are very low.

thier style is very convenient to young people who do niot want responsiblity

do u want the same life style. go ahead but dont misguide the others.

i am sorry for your ignorance